FUNDAMENTAL KNOWLEDGE OF MARRIAGE

By the special grace of God, I'm not here to quote any scripture but to let us see our present and future marital life in the scripture. You may say, this is a small boy, he is not even married, how can this small boy be telling us about MARRIAGE. This is God talking to you not me. He just wishes to use me for you, also for myself. I'm not married yet, but by His grace, I know what it takes to be in marriage. The grace of God has shown me insight of MARRIAGE, that is why I always pray not to miss it in marriage, because missing it in marriage can as well determine your eternity, either HEAVEN or HELL. MARRIAGE as a common word is a very vital word which must be broken down into smallest pieces before embarking on its journey. MARRIAGE is the legal union between "only" a "mature" man and a "mature" lady. Marriage is supported by parent of the two partners involved, meaning that, the consent and acceptance of both parent must be guaranteed before wedding. If you are in marriage that your parent does not put a stamp on, you are putting curse upon yourself. WHY &HOW? It is very simple to sight an example, if you are privileged to have a son/daughter who wedded without your consent, if you don' curse the child, God who put you in her and the family will not be happy. When God is not happy with someone, imagine what will happen to the fellow. WHY DO PEOPLE GET MARRIED??? This is a question you need to ask yourself before embarking on the journey. This means that you must have a vision for your marriage because it is an institution, if you venture into it without spelling out your vision, you will bite your finger on the long run. 1. For companionship:- Some men/ladies need someone to pour their minds to and share with. Most especially ladies, they need caring heart. However, it is vice versa. 2. For child bearing:- What some people look forward to is children, once the children are being given birth to, he/she is satisfied. You must decide the number of children you want together with your partner. If a partner is saying he want male child(ren) consistently against your wish, you will understand you may end up biting you finger in future. You must spell out how you want your children to be trained in all ramifications with your partner. Iron it out very well! 3. For business companionship:- Some people want to marry so that they can venture or collaborate with only his wife or her husband, thinking that it will be safer and trustworthiness will be there. However, check the trustworthiness in him before embarking into "I WILL MARRY YOU". 4. For Sexual purpose:- This is a very good reason for christians who don't want to fornicate, they rather get married. PAUL also butress that in one of his writings to the churches. However, you must make sure iron this out very try well. This breaks most marriages. The complaints come from both the man and woman. 5. For spiritual aid:- this is one of the vital reasons for marriage as 1 will chase a thousand and 2 will chase ten thousand. Honestly, this one of my reasons I want to get married. If both of you can't help yourself spiritually, there will be porosity. Thereby, allows devil to torment you. I pray that it will not be so in Jesus name. Looking at these reasons, as a mature man or lady, all the reasons must be your reason for marriage. MATURITY IN MARRIAGE MATURITY can be explained as the capability to withstand any trial and challenges. Women are not slaves, therefore men in particular must be able to complete at least 80% of the maturity needed for marriage of which there are two paramount maturities needed for marriage. MATURITY IN MAN 1. Financial Maturity:- Mind you, you don't need all the money in the world before you marry. However, you must make sure there's is undisturbed continuity of expenses required by the family. Therefore, the work you do must be able to sustain your your marriage before you venture into it, so that your wife and children will not suffer. 2. Emotional Maturity:- You must be able to give decisions that are worthy of being called a husband. You must be able able to control your ANGER. You must be able to console your wife. 3. Spiritual Maturity:- you must be able to intercede for your family. You must be able to call into worship. You must be a man of faith (not seeing by sight). You must be a problem solver. WEDDING IS DIFFERENT FROM MARRIAGE WEDDING is the celebration of the joining together of the two parties. MARRIAGE is the practical of wedding. Wedding is done once but Marriage is "until death do us part". Research asserted, that most couple/man/lady spend millions of money on wedding forgetting the marriage. I heard of someone who after his wedding start paying debt and borrowing money to settle wedding debt. The money that supposed to be for honey moon and continuity of marriage was spent on payment of debt. My Advice: NEVER LAY PRIORITY ON WEDDING BUT MARRIAGE. MAY THE ALMIGHTY GOD BLESS OUR MARRIAGE IN JESUS NAME SHALOM