"What does the Bible say about masturbation?"
Is one of our most frequently asked questions. Many Christians have
found it difficult to answer this question according to the Bible,
because the Bible never mentions masturbation specifically. To
understand how God feels about this subject, we must examine other
verses that deal with issues such as lust, self-control and purity.
Also, we must examine its fruit to see if it is from God. We have tried
to address this issue by answering some of the most frequently asked
questions. Our prayer is that God will use this page to bring freedom
and deliverance. "Does God care about what we do in the privacy of our
bedrooms?" Sex is God's invention. He is the mastermind behind it—and
His creation is worth far more to Him than it is to us. This beautiful
expression of love was created out of His own heart, as a gift to be
experienced between a husband and wife. It is only in marriage that this
manifestation of intimacy can be fully enjoyed in the depth for which
it was created. "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed
kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral"
(Hebrews 13:4, NIV). "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed
undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge" (Hebrews
13:4, KJV). The more beautiful and unique something is (like sexual
intercourse), the more power it holds over our lives, either for good or
bad influence. That is why it is so easy for the devil to corrupt the
most precious of God//'//s gifts. When we become more in love with the
gifts than the One who endowed them, the things that were designed to
bless us begin to destroy us instead. Yes, God cares about what we do
with our bodies, in public or in private. He doesn//'//t want us to
abuse ourselves in any way. In fact, an older definition of masturbation
is "self-abuse." Although more modern dictionaries may no longer carry
this definition, they are still linked together under self-abuse:
Self-abuse noun¹ 1. Abuse of oneself or one//'//s abilities. 2.
Masturbation. 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV) further confirms this, saying
that unlawful sexual relations defile our own bodies. "Flee from sexual
immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he
who sins sexually sins against his own body." "Isn't it still better to
masturbate than to commit fornication?" The easy answer to this question
would be, "Yes, it is better to masturbate, because at best it corrupts
only one person. It certainly is the lesser of two evils." However, why
would a loving, holy, all-powerful God abandon you to a situation in
which you have to choose any evil, whether it be "lesser" or "greater?"
To really answer this question, we must again go back to God's original
plan for sex. First of all, masturbation will not truly relieve the
sexual pressure that one may feel. It may for a short moment, but in the
long run it only creates a deeper desire and capacity for sex, which
will lead to more masturbation. If you let yourself become enslaved to a
sexual high, you will find that you need to go to increasingly extreme
acts to maintain the same degree of excitement. There are even ungodly
sex therapists who recommend masturbation as a way of increasing sexual
desire, not lessening it. This creates a vicious circle, like the junkie
who craves a "fix," but is only temporarily satisfied. The more he
indulges in his dependency, the more ensnared by addiction he becomes.
This is the nature of all sin. That is why Jesus declared that all who
sin become a slave to sin (John 8:34) . Furthermore, masturbation
usually involves fantasy, visualization, and often pornography. The
Bible is very clear as to what God expects of us in these areas of
fantasy and lust. It teaches that we must not look lustfully at each
other nor should we behave in such a manner as to entice others to lust
after us. "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust upon a
girl. I know full well that the Almighty God sends calamity on those who
do" (Job 31:1-3, The Living Bible). "You have heard that it was said,
'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a
woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart"
(Matthew 5:28). While the above verses refer to men lusting after women,
all women know that it can very easily be reversed to apply to
themselves as well. Men may be more easily visually stimulated than
women, but women can be just as vulnerable to sexual fantasy in the
emotional realm. Both are sin in God's eyes, and both can be brought
into subjection by controlling our thoughts through Christ's power. All
sexual immorality begins with a thought. A lustful thought not taken
captive, will eventually lead to other perversions, because sin
reproduces itself in increasingly greater measures. If we do not deal
with our evil thoughts, they will take root in our hearts. It is for
this reason that God is so concerned with our thought life. Jesus came
not only to deliver us from our "outward" sins, but also from wickedness
that begins in the heart. Since masturbation begins with sin in the
mind, it might be called an "affair of the mind" because it brings about
sexual sin inflicted against one's own body. Although it brings a short
lived gratification, it makes one feel defiled when continued on a
regular basis. In fact, it is a form of fornication because fornication
is more that just sex with someone before marriage, it includes many
other sexual sins such as pornography and the use of sexual toys for
gratification. People who are not satisfied with God's plan for sex
commit idolatry by using evil things to experience weird and unlawful
forms of sexual intercourse. Some verses in Ezekiel actually describe
this kind of fornication. Ezekiel 16:15-17: 15But you trusted in and
relied on your own beauty and were unfaithful to God and played the
harlot [in idolatry] because of your renown, and you poured out your
fornications upon anyone who passed by [as you worshiped the idols of
every nation which prevailed over you] and your beauty was his. 16 And
you took some of your garments and made for yourself gaily decorated
high places or shrines and played the harlot on them-- things which
should not come and that which should not take place. 17 You did also
take your fair jewels and beautiful vessels of My gold and My silver
which I had given you and made for yourself images of men, and you
played the harlot with them. "Isn't God unreasonable to demand sexual
purity after giving us sexual drives that seem to overwhelm us at
times?" Our loving God never demands from us what is impossible for us
to do. We are so weak within ourselves that it may seem impossible, but
He will equip us with His holy power to overcome any sin, if we ask in
faith. Of course, sexual urges in and of themselves are not wicked. They
are natural. God created us that way. He desires that we get optimum
pleasure out of them by using them the way they were created to be used.
However, many desires for physical gratification (whether it be food,
sex, etc.) stem from a deeper need that is unfilled deep inside us.
Gorging our flesh can never fill a hunger that grows out of our spirit.
Only intimacy with God can fill the deepest needs inside of us. No other
created thing has that power. God is no more unreasonable than any
caring parent who lovingly disciplines their child. It is only because
He knows what is best for us. He sees a mighty potential in each one of
us that far supersedes our wildest dreams, and He loves us enough to do
all He can to bring it to pass. "I agree with all the theory, but living
it out on a day to day level is another story." This is the place where
we need the empowerment of the Holy Spirit in our everyday lives. The
Holy Spirit is not a vague "force," but the very power of God to comfort
you and strengthen you against the sins that used to rule you before
you were born again. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we have the
very ability that Jesus had to resist temptation. He depended completely
upon the Father and so must we. Something you must know is that God is
not the one who is tempting you in this area to "test" you. God is on
your side and wants to set you free from these things, not lead you into
them! "When tempted, no one should say "God is tempting me." For God
cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is
tempted when by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed"
(James 1:13-14). God wants us to overcome every sin and temptation in
our lives. Please slowly read the following verses and let their message
seep deep inside your spirit. "No temptation has seized you except what
is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted
beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide
a way out so that you can stand up under it" (1 Corinthians 10:13).
"For though we live in the world we do not wage war as the world does.
The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the
contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish
arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge
of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to
Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:3-5). "In the same way count yourselves dead
to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not let sin reign
in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer the
parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather
offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to
life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of
righteousness. For sin shall not be your master for you are not under
law but under grace" (Romans 6:11-14). "For we have not a high priest
which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in
all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore
come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find
grace to help in time of need" (Hebrews 4:15-16, King James Version).
"Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves
from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness
out of reverence for God" (2 Corinthians 7:1). "Can I really be set
free?" "In (this) freedom, Christ has made us free— completely liberated
us; stand fast then, and do not be hampered and held ensnared and
submit again to a yoke of slavery—which you have once put off "
(Galatians 5:1 Amp). If you are in a real struggle with any form of
sexual sin, we do not believe it was by accident that God led you to
this teaching. He wants to set you free, starting right now! We would
like to share several things that you can do to break loose from this
stronghold: 1. Confess this sin first to God, then go to a committed
Christian you trust, such as your pastor. Ask God to lead you to someone
that you can be accountable with, who will be faithful to pray with you
and for you. This will take humility on your part, but it will lead to
life. James 5:16 says: "Therefore confess your sins to each other and
pray for each other that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous
man is powerful and effective." (You may not feel "righteous" but if you
have admitted your sin to God and received His forgiveness, you are!
That means your prayers are powerful and effective!) 2. Flee from and
reject anything that aggravates this sin. For example, you may need to
get off the Internet for a season or purchase software that blocks out
pornography. This may sound too drastic, but it certainly is mild
compared to Jesus who said, "If your right hand causes you to sin, cut
it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your
body, than for your whole body to go into Hell" (Matthew 5:30). His
point was that we must be willing to part with anything that causes us
to sin —even if it hurts temporarily. 3. You may need to seek healing
and deliverance from qualified Christians who are anointed in this area
of ministry. If you have been deeply involved in sexual sins, the devil
probably has a stronghold in that area of your life. If you can, find
some people who can help you stand against the devil, for he is the one
who seeks to lead you into temptation, and whispers lies of hopelessness
and shame into your ears. If he drops a filthy thought into your mind
just when you are trying to pray (he has used this tactic on even the
holiest saints of God), tell him to leave in the name of Jesus!
Recognize his voice for what it is, and submit yourself to God. As you
do this and resist the devil, he will flee from you! He is deathly
afraid of those who are submitted to God in brokenness and humility. 4.
Don't give up! Deliverance might take time. Self-control takes effort.
You may slip occasionally —or even a lot. But remember that God loves
you and He will be faithful to perfect His character in you as long you
keep submitting to Him. Eventually you will win—and not because of your
best efforts, but because of God's mercy (Titus 3:5) . Just as salvation
is received in faith, so deliverance must be received in faith. This
has nothing to do with our character, strength, or failings. The only
thing it is dependent upon is you receiving it in humility. If you
should fail, recognize it quickly, ask God to forgive you—and then
receive His forgiveness! He is faithful to do that which He promised,
not just in a select few mighty men and women of God, but in all who are
willing to come humbly before Him. That includes you! We want to
encourage you to hold on to this scripture as your anchor: "May God
himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your
whole spirit, soul, and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord
Jesus Christ. The one who calls you is faithful and He will do it" (1
Thessalonians 5:23-24). If there is anything else we can do to help you,
please let us know. In closing, we would like to pray for you: "Father,
we thank you for bringing this person into our website. We know that it
was your Holy Spirit that led them here and we thank you for your
faithfulness to them! We lift them up to you now and ask that You fill
them with a desire for You that transcends every other desire they have
ever known. Let them know your cleansing love and power. We thank you
that he whom the Son has set free, is free indeed. We speak this freedom
into the life of this one whom the devil has bound in shame. We speak
healing and deliverance and we break every tie that has kept them under a
spirit of addiction and perversion. We stand against the Evil One and
his every plan to bring destruction in this one's life. Father, in
faith, and by the power and authority You have given us, we declare that
this one is FREE in the name of Jesus! We commit them to Your care and
we loose Your Holy Spirit to minister to them at this very instant. We
ask these things in the precious name of Your son, Jesus Christ."